The Ultimate Elopement Planning Checklist for New Jersey Couples

If you’re dreaming of a wedding day that’s simple, intimate, and centered on the two of you, eloping might be the perfect choice. 

But even though an elopement can be much easier to plan than a traditional wedding, there are still some important details to think through. That’s why I created this elopement planning checklist to help you plan a day that’s not only stress-free but also full of meaning. 

In case we haven’t met yet, hi I’m Rachel! I’m a New Jersey-based wedding and elopement photographer, and I have such a heart for helping couples create meaningful, joy-filled days that truly reflect who they are. Whether you're exchanging vows on a windswept beach, in a quiet garden, or on a mountaintop at sunrise, I’m here to document every tender moment with care, honesty, and intention. If you're planning an elopement in NJ or NYC and want someone by your side who believes your love story deserves to be told beautifully, I’d love to connect.

Whether you’re envisioning a scenic park, a cozy Airbnb, or the Jersey Shore at sunrise, this guide will help you feel confident about your plans from start to finish.

Why Eloping in New Jersey Is So Special

New Jersey has such a wide variety of locations for couples who want to elope. You can exchange vows with your toes in the sand at one of the beautiful beaches, hike up to a mountaintop overlook, or choose a charming city backdrop in Hoboken or Jersey City. There are hidden gardens, quiet historic sites, and plenty of small venues that cater to elopements.

I love photographing elopements here because couples can create a truly unique day. With so many options close by, you don’t have to travel far to find a setting that feels like you.

Still deciding what kind of celebration feels right? This guide breaks down the differences between elopements and micro weddings, helping you choose the option that fits your values, vision, and the way you want your New Jersey wedding day to feel.

Step 1: Pick Your Date and Location

The first step on your elopement planning checklist is choosing a date and location. Consider the time of year and how it will impact the weather, crowds, and scenery. Spring and fall often have beautiful weather in New Jersey, while summer can be warm but perfect for beach ceremonies.

Once you have a date in mind, start thinking about what type of location would feel most meaningful. Do you want something adventurous, like a hike in a state park? Or would you prefer something relaxed, like a small backyard, a boutique hotel, or even a simple, classic city hall wedding? Because elopements are small, you’ll have more freedom to pick a place that might not work for a large group.

Step 2: Handle the Legal Details

Next on your elopement planning checklist is making sure you’ve covered the legal side of things. In New Jersey, you’ll need to apply for a marriage license at your local municipal clerk’s office. The license is valid for 30 days, but there’s a mandatory 72-hour waiting period, so don’t leave this step until the last minute.

You’ll also need an officiant and at least one witness to legally get married in New Jersey. Some couples ask a friend or family member to get ordained and officiate, while others hire a professional. Either way, make sure your officiant knows the requirements so everything is official.

Step 3: Choose Your Photographer and Other Key Vendors

Even though elopements are simpler than traditional weddings, you’ll still want a few key people to help bring the day together. At the top of that list is your photographer. As your photographer, I’m not just there to take pictures, I’m also here to help you plan your timeline, recommend beautiful spots for photos, and make the day feel as relaxed as possible.

Depending on your vision, you might also hire a florist for a bouquet, a hair and makeup artist, or a private chef for a special dinner. Because you’ll likely work with fewer vendors, you can be more intentional about choosing people who really align with your style and values.

Step 4: Plan the Look and Feel of the Day

Elopements give you so much freedom to make the day your own. Think about how you want the day to feel. Do you imagine getting ready together and sharing a quiet morning before the ceremony? Are you planning to exchange vows at sunrise, or do you want a golden-hour ceremony followed by dinner under the stars?

The beauty of eloping is that you can plan the flow of the day however you like. Even with small touches and personalized ideas, it can become more of an experience, not just an event. Focus on the elements that bring you joy.

Want help shaping a day that feels effortless and intentional? This wedding day timeline guide walks you through creating a relaxed flow that leaves space for real moments, quiet pauses, and meaningful memories from start to finish.

Step 5: Make Space for a Meaningful Experience

One of my favorite parts of elopements is how intentional they are. You’re not on a strict schedule or trying to entertain a huge group of guests—you can focus on each other. Build quiet moments into your timeline. Take a walk together, enjoy a favorite meal, or read letters from loved ones who couldn’t attend.

When you personalize your day, you’ll remember how the day felt, not just what you did. That’s what makes elopements so special.

Looking for ways to celebrate without losing the intimacy? These small wedding party ideas offer thoughtful, low-pressure ways to gather with loved ones while keeping your elopement experience meaningful, relaxed, and true to you.

Optional Additions That Make Your Elopement Extra Special

Because elopements are small and flexible, you can add special touches that make the day unforgettable. You might hire a videographer to capture the ceremony, book a getaway weekend at a cozy cabin, or plan an adventurous activity like kayaking or horseback riding after the vows.

Some couples also plan a celebration with family and friends later on, so they can share photos and relive the day. Whatever you decide, make sure it reflects you and your relationship.

FAQs About Planning a NJ Elopement

Planning an elopement often comes with a few extra questions along the way. Here are answers to some of the most common things couples ask while planning their New Jersey elopement, so you can feel confident and excited about what comes next.

What are the best wedding venues to elope in New Jersey?

New Jersey offers everything from scenic beaches and mountain overlooks to charming gardens and boutique venues. If you're searching for unique and intimate spots, this guide shares some of the best wedding venues to elope in New Jersey.

How do you celebrate with family after an elopement?

Many couples plan a dinner, backyard party, or reception later so family can celebrate with them. Sharing photos, videos, or hosting a casual gathering lets loved ones feel included while keeping the elopement day focused on just the two of you.

How far in advance should you plan a New Jersey elopement?

Most couples plan 3–9 months ahead, especially if they want popular locations or vendors. Elopements are flexible though, so shorter timelines are possible if permits, vendors, and marriage license timing are handled early.

Do you need a backup plan for an outdoor NJ elopement?

Yes, New Jersey weather can change quickly, so having a rain plan helps reduce stress. Some options could be covered park areas, indoor venues nearby, or simply embracing light rain with umbrellas and flexible timing.

How do I break the news to family and friends about my elopement?

Honesty and reassurance go a long way. Share why eloping feels right for you and include loved ones in other ways. This guide walks through how to tell family and friends you're eloping.

Ultimate Elopement Planning Checklist Final Thoughts

If you’re planning an elopement in New Jersey and want to work with a photographer who can help guide you through the process, I’d love to connect! Together, we can make sure your day is everything you’re dreaming of—and capture every moment along the way.

Rachel Watkinson - Intimate Wedding & Portrait Photographer

Rachel Watkinson is a boutique wedding photographer specializing in intimate weddings, micro weddings, and elopements across Northern New Jersey and New York City. With a background in fine art photography from Pratt Institute, Rachel blends digital and film to create timeless, heartfelt imagery that celebrates love in its most authentic form.

She’s passionate about documenting life’s meaningful moments with a classic aesthetic and genuine care for every couple she works with. When she’s not behind the camera, you’ll likely find her creating something new (whether it’s through painting, ceramics, or home design). She’s always inspired by the beauty in connection and creativity.

Learn more about how Rachel can beautifully capture your wedding day and begin your photography experience here.