Camera Shyness? Here’s How to Feel Confident and Comfortable During Your Photos

If the idea of having your photo taken makes you squirm a little, you're not alone. I’ve worked with so many couples who tell me they’re camera shy or that they feel awkward in front of the lens. And trust me, I get it! Being professionally photographed isn’t something most people do every day. But you don’t have to be a model or suddenly know how to pose to have beautiful, meaningful photos.

As your photographer, it’s my job to help you feel comfortable, confident, and like yourself. Whether you’re planning a micro wedding, eloping on a mountaintop, or celebrating with your closest people in an intimate venue, your love deserves to be documented in a way that feels natural, not stiff or overly staged.

If you’re dealing with a little (or a lot of) camera shyness, here are a few things to keep in mind.

Choose a Photographer Who Feels Like a Friend

The number one thing I tell my couples? You don’t have to perform for the camera—you just have to feel safe and seen. That starts with choosing a photographer you trust. Someone who takes the time to get to know you, understands your dynamic, and makes you feel like you can exhale.

My approach is relaxed, observant, and supportive. I don’t bark orders or force you into cheesy poses. Instead, I gently guide you, read the energy of the moment, and prioritize your comfort every step of the way. The more you feel like you can be yourself with me, the more that authenticity will shine through in your photos.

Think of It as a Date, Not a Photoshoot

One of my favorite ways to ease camera shyness is to reframe the experience. Don’t think of it as a “photoshoot.” Think of it as a chance to slow down, connect, and spend intentional time together, just the two of you!

Whether we’re wandering around your neighborhood, hiking to a favorite overlook, or just soaking in golden hour at your venue, the experience should feel more like a fun date than a formal shoot. I’ll give you little prompts or ideas to spark movement and connection, but it’s all rooted in your real relationship, not stiff poses.

Wear Something That Feels Like You

You’ll feel more confident in your photos when you feel good in what you’re wearing. So, rather than dressing to impress the camera, dress in a way that feels authentic and comfortable.

Soft, neutral tones tend to photograph beautifully and keep the focus on your connection, but what matters most is that you still feel like yourself. If that means breaking out your favorite leather jacket, a flowy dress, or your go-to sneakers, go for it. The best outfits are the ones that let your personality shine through.

Focus on Each Other, Not the Camera

One of the quickest ways to ease camera shyness is to tune out the camera entirely and focus on each other. You don’t have to look straight at the lens or worry about how you’re standing. Just be present with your partner.

Hold hands. Whisper something silly. Take a breath together. Laugh at an inside joke. When you’re connected to one another, your body relaxes and your expressions soften, and that’s when the magic happens. My job is to quietly document those real, unposed moments as they unfold.

When we’re done, you’ll get beautiful candid photos instead of stiff, staged ones that you can tell are unnatural. 

Practice Ahead of Time (Hint: Engagement Sessions Help!)

If you’re feeling nervous about being photographed on your wedding day, consider booking an engagement session. It’s the perfect chance to get comfortable in front of the camera and to get to know how I work.

An engagement session gives you a low-pressure space to move, play, and see just how relaxed and easy photos can feel. Plus, you’ll walk away with a beautiful collection of images that celebrate this chapter of your life and a big confidence boost ahead of the big day.

As a bonus, you’ll get to use your engagement photos on your invitations, wedding website, and even Christmas cards (I’m all about maximizing!)

Let Go of Perfection: Embrace the Candid & Real

You don’t need to look “perfect” to have beautiful wedding photos. In fact, the most powerful images come from the candid, in-between moments, like the way you laugh mid-sentence, the quick glance you share when no one’s watching, or the wind catching your hair just right.

Perfection is overrated. What’s real is so much better. The more you can let go of pressure and just be yourself, the more your photos will reflect your love honestly and artistically.

Your Photographer (Me) Will Guide You—You’re Not Doing This Alone

If you’re worried you won’t know what to do during photos, please hear this: you’re not expected to know. That’s what I’m here for!

I’ll guide you through the entire process—from where to stand to how to move—so you never feel lost or awkward. But I also leave space for you to settle into the moment and connect in your own way. It’s a balance of gentle direction and letting things unfold naturally.

Camera shyness is so common, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. With the right photographer, a little preparation, and permission to be fully yourself, you’ll not only look amazing in your photos, but you’ll feel amazing, too. If you’re interested, contact me today to set up a stress-free photo session with you and your loved one.