Let’s Talk About Getting Ready Wedding Photography (Because It Deserves More Love)
As an NJ and NYC intimate wedding photographer, I can honestly say that some of the most moving, joy-filled moments I capture happen before the ceremony even begins. Getting ready wedding photography isn’t just about hair, makeup, or zipping up a dress. They’re full of quiet anticipation, bursts of laughter, and those “wow, this is really happening” moments that hit you when you least expect them.
And yet, this part of the day is often misunderstood or underestimated. So let’s talk about what getting ready wedding photography actually is, how much time you should plan for, and why these photos are more than just pretty—they’re the beginning of your wedding story.
Before we go any further, hi! I’m Rachel, a New Jersey-based small wedding and elopement photographer serving couples throughout NJ and NYC. If you're in the thick of planning and want someone who sees and captures the in-between moments (not just the posed stuff), take a look at my wedding photography services and contact me to see if we’re a great fit!
The Getting Ready Hours Are More Than Just Hair and Makeup
This part of the day holds a kind of magic that’s hard to put into words. There’s usually music playing (sometimes a chill playlist, sometimes a full-on dance party), your favorite people close by, and a beautiful mix of nerves and excitement in the air.
But getting ready isn’t just about logistics. It’s about easing into the day, connecting with yourself, with your people, and with the meaning behind what’s about to happen.
It’s also where some of the most emotional moments happen naturally: a hug from your mom, a quiet look in the mirror, a teary-eyed first look with your dad (I’ve seen it all, and yes, I cry right along with you sometimes).
What’s Actually Happening During This Time
A lot of couples don’t realize how much happens during this window (and how much thought I put into capturing it!). At a minimum, I usually need about an hour per wedding couple to photograph everything with intention.
That includes the little details like your invitation suite, rings, shoes, jewelry, bouquet, and of course, the dress. I don’t just snap a photo and move on, I carefully style and photograph each element to match your vibe and tell a cohesive visual story. (And yes, setting those up takes more time than people think!).
There’s also candid moments: you with your crew hanging out on the bed, toasts with champagne, last-minute touches, and laughter. This is all part of what makes getting ready wedding photography feel full and personal. Not rushed or incomplete.
First Looks, Toasts, and Group Photos
If you’re planning a first look with your partner, a parent, or even your wedding party I highly recommend giving yourself a little extra time (closer to 90 minutes).
These moments deserve to feel calm and joyful, not like you’re racing the clock. When we have the time, everything feels more relaxed (and those smiles and teary reactions I love to capture happen naturally).
Plus, if you’re hoping to include group photos, hair touch-ups, or even a quiet toast with your people, extra time makes sure we can flow through it all with ease. I always want your getting ready wedding photography to reflect how the morning felt, not just what it looked like.
When Time Is Tight: How to Simplify Without Losing the Magic
Not every wedding has a full morning to work with, and that’s totally okay! This is especially true for small intimate weddings or elopements, where things often move more quickly. If your timeline is tight, we can absolutely keep things simple.
Instead of styling every detail, I can do a few quick flat lays or focus on moments that feel more candid and natural. Sometimes that means skipping the prep photos altogether and starting with your first look. You don’t have to give up meaningful photos, we just prioritize what matters most to you.
What Getting Ready Looks Like for the Groom (and Why It’s Usually Quicker!)
Grooms often have fewer details to photograph, so their timeline can usually be shorter. But that doesn’t mean this part should be skipped.
Some of my favorite images are of grooms tying ties, adjusting a boutonniere, or sharing a toast with their closest friends (yes, even if it’s just a shot and a laugh before heading out the door).
If there are thoughtful items like a watch, custom socks, a handwritten note—those deserve a photo too. Even in its simplicity, this part of the day tells your love story. And that’s what makes getting ready wedding photography meaningful on both sides.
One Photographer, Two Getting Ready Locations: What to Consider
Here’s the real-life logistics part: if you only have one photographer (hi, that’s me!), I can’t be in two places at once.
If both of you want getting ready photos and you’re in different locations, you’ll want to consider a few options:
Stagger the timelines so I can spend time with one of you first, then the other.
Prioritize one person’s prep photos, especially if they have more going on.
Or add a second photographer if it’s really important to capture both stories equally.
This is something I help all my couples think through early on so your day feels seamless. Especially for intimate weddings where schedules can feel extra tight.
The Heart of It All: Why Giving Yourself Time Creates the Best Memories
At the end of the day, getting ready wedding photography isn’t just about your shoes and makeup. It’s about capturing the heart of the morning. When you build in time to breathe, laugh with your people, and really take it all in, that’s when the most genuine moments unfold. Those are the photos that feel like you and they set the tone for the rest of your day. They’re quiet, emotional, and worth remembering.
If you’re dreaming of a wedding day that feels personal and deeply present (with photos that reflect that), I’d love to help make it happen.
Reach out to me to start the conversation, ask questions, or just say hi. I can't wait to hear about your plans and what getting ready looks like for you.
Rachel Watkinson - Intimate Wedding & Portrait Photographer
Rachel Watkinson is a boutique wedding photographer specializing in intimate weddings, micro weddings, and elopements across Northern New Jersey and New York City. With a background in fine art photography from Pratt Institute, Rachel blends digital and film to create timeless, heartfelt imagery that celebrates love in its most authentic form.
She’s passionate about documenting life’s meaningful moments with a classic aesthetic and genuine care for every couple she works with. When she’s not behind the camera, you’ll likely find her creating something new (whether it’s through painting, ceramics, or home design). She’s always inspired by the beauty in connection and creativity.
Learn more about how Rachel can beautifully capture your wedding day and begin your photography experience here.